Monthly Articles

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AH, THE HUMBLE 3-MINUTE TIMER: Transitions Made Simple
published February 2008

ENTER THE POWER OF TWO(2): Finding value in the 'repeat performance'
published January 2008

THE AMAZING 'SOAKING' PRINCIPLE: Finding success in the stress-relaxation cycle
published December 2007

". . . SHOW ME HOW YOU DID THAT": Refining Indirect Guidance
published November 2007

". . . SHOW ME HOW THAT WORKS": Refining Indirect Guidance
published October 2007

ANGER - FRIEND OR FOE? Two hidden factors
published September 2007

ANGER - FRIEND OR FOE? Successfully managing your own strong emotions
published August 2007

ANGER - FRIEND OR FOE? Understanding the anatomy of strong emotions
published July 2007

ANGER - FRIEND OR FOE? Helping children resolve feelings that trigger anger
published June 2007

ANGER - FRIEND OR FOE? Helping children manage their own strong emotions
published May 2007

A SUBTLE SHIFT: Converting "if...then" phrases to "when...then"
published April 2007

REWARDS: Safe or Dangerous? Using incentives creatively and safely
published March 2007

AVOIDING THE OBI-WAN KENOBI SYNDROME: Helping children use their questions as building blocks
published February 2007

WHEN 'AND' TRUMPS 'BUT': Avoiding the unconscious put-down
published January 2007

A CHILD'S SEARCH FOR SIGNIFICANCE: How a missing sense of importance influences behavior
published December 2006

A CHILD'S SEARCH FOR SIGNIFICANCE: How a missing sense of importance influences behavior
published November 2006

"SO, WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH 'NO'?" And some creative alternatives
published August 2006

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO COMPLIMENTS? Affirming vs. complimenting in everyday life
published July 2006

POSITIVE GUIDANCE: What it Means in REAL Life
published June 2006

INDIRECT GUIDANCE: From obvious directives to subtle prompting
published May 2006

ENGAGMENT: Participating vs. 'Spectating'
published May 2006

MANAGING (vs. controlling) CHILDREN
published April 2006

ASSERTIVENESS IN ACTION
published March 2006

THE CREATIVE DELAY
published February 2006

WHERE THE RUBBER MEETS THE ROAD!
published January 2006

PURSUING EXCELLENCE WITH DILIGENCE
published December 2005

LESS STRESS - MORE SUCCESS
published November 2005

"USE YOUR WORDS"
published October 2005

"DO YOU NEED TO CRY?"
published September 2005

RAISING 'AUTHENTIC' CHILDREN: A Key to Character Growth
Building foundations of integrity, Part 2 of 2
published August 2005

RAISING 'AUTHENTIC' CHILDREN: A Key to Character Growth
Building foundations of integrity, Part 1 of 2
published July 2005

DISAPPOINTMENT: A Key to Character Growth
published June 2005

"I'LL TALK TO YOU WHEN..."
published May 2005

"THAT'S NOT FAIR!"
published April 2005

"BUT, WHAT ABOUT SHELLY!"
published March 2005

"IT'S MY TURN!"
published February 2005

"BUT, WHAT ABOUT ME?"
published January 2005

WHEN THEY JUST WON'T LISTEN
published December 2004

Get Ready - Get Set!
published November 2004

For a Fresh Start...
published October 2004

"THE VACCINATION PRINCIPLE"
published September 2004

"... AND I MEAN IT!"
published August 2004

"BUT YOU PROMISED!"
published July 2004

“They Listen With Their Eyes!”
published June 2004

Building Confidence "R" Way
published May 2004

"What were you doing when...?"
published April 2004

Careful Questions: A Key to Better Relationships
(part 2 of 2 on The Leading Question
published March 2004

Up With Questions and Down With Commands
(part 1 of 2 on The Leading Question
published February 2004

"What's Next?"
for focus, sequence, order
published January 2004

"Do You Understand?"
...and other empty add-ons
published December 2003

The Other Side of the Coin
"Believe it or not!"
published November 2003

"That's okay"...NOT!
Is there something better?
published October 2003

"Act Your Age!"
("But I AM...!")
published September 2003

"Between a Rock and a Hard Place"
Managing Kids Who Interrupt
published August 2003

Not 'lello'. Say 'LELLO'
Baby talk revisited
published July 2003

Winning over whining
Is it really possible?
published June 2003

Answering "nonsense"
Good idea...or bad?
published May 2003

About Backtalk
Effectively managing loose-lipped kids
published April 2003

Before It Happens Again
(practice, practice, practice)
published March 2003

Life's Basic Choices
Fuss, Ignore or Work It Out
published February 2003

Compliments for Ego or Character?
published January 2003

What Does Punishment Really Teach?
Part 4 of 4
How To Treat Other People
published December 2002

New Tools For New Rules!
published November 2002

What Does Punishment Really Teach?
Part 3 of 4
A Foundation of Fear
published October 2002

The Incredible Power of Quiet
published September 2002

What Does Punishment Really Teach?
Part 2 of 4
To do the same thing again!
published August 2002

"All by Myself"
A Child's Claim to Success
published July 2002

What Does Punishment Really Teach?
Part 1 of 4 - The Cost of Fun
published June 2002

We Use Gentle Hands
published May 2002

Every Word Counts
published April 2002

The Arguing Child
Part Two of Two
published March 2002

The Arguing Child
Part One of Two
published February 2002

From Bedtime Blues to Anytime Snooze
published January 2002

Taking the Kids "As Is"
published December 2001

Engagement: The Vital Link to Communication
published November 2001

Talking about the Kids...In Front Of Them
published October 2001

Replacing Threats & Warnings: Parental Leadership Turned Positive
Part Two of Two
published September 2001

Threats and Warnings: Underminers of Parental Leadership
Part One of Two
published August 2001

Why is Johnny crying?
published July 2001

Do It Or Else
Part 5 of respect series, published June 2001

"Write Your Own Ticket!"
Part 4 of respect series, published May 2001

Kites & Anchors
Part 3 of Respect series, published April 2001

The Power of Modeling
Part 2 of Respect series, published March 2001

What ever happened to respect?
Part 1 of Respect series, published February 2001

"Instead of 'NO', say 'YES!'"
published January 2001

"What kind of behavior did you just use?"
published December 2000

"What's the magic word?"
published November 2000

"Manage from your feet, not from your seat!"
published October 2000

"I don't like that!"
published September 2000

"I had it first."
published August 2000

"Say 'sorry'?"
published July 2000

The Magic of "Next"
published June 2000

"Talk before you tattle."
published May 2000