QuikTips Overview
QuikTips is a series of short, practical articles that feature easy-to-use
tools for low-stress child management.
These articles originate under the title,
"Discipline Without Damage", published monthly in Mother & Child Reunion,
a parenting magazine widely distributed throughout the Kansas City area. They are
listed chronologically in the Monthly
Articles section of our web site.
All techniques presented meet strict scientific and ethical guidelines and
have been carefully "road-tested" for effectiveness in everyday use. Every
method is thoroughly positive and, when used as intended, can help children
develop skills of self-management, confidence, empathy and the many other
positive character qualities needed in becoming well-adjusted, productive
adults.
TEACHING VIRTUE
Helping children manage their own strong emotions, Part 1 of 5
Helping children resolve feelings that trigger ange, Part 2 of 5
Understanding the anatomy of strong emotions, Part 3 of 5
Successfully managing your own strong emotions, Part 4 of 5
Two Hidden Factors, Part 5 of 5
Recognizing "the cry" as positive therapy
Building foundations of integrity, Part 1 of 2
Building foundations of integrity, Part 2 of 2
Helping Children Respond to Injustice, Part 1 of 3
Helping Children Respond to Injustice, Part 2 of 3
Helping Children Respond to Injustice, Part 3 of 3
How sweet it is...really!
Is there something better?
Managing Kids Who Interrupt
Is it really possible?
(Effectively managing loose-lipped kids)
(stating food preferences)
(courtesy beyond rights)
(apologizing with empathy)
(taking turns)
(rough hands turned positive)
(requesting without manipulating)
TEACHING ACCOUNTABILITY & INDEPENDENCE
Refining Indirect Guidance, Part 1 of 2
Refining Indirect Guidance, Part 2 of 2
Helping children use their questions as building blocks
Good idea...or bad?
(positive confrontation)
(self-awareness)
(finding truth w/o condemning)
(supporting a child's search for independence)
(teaching good habits)
(showing the correct response)
MOTIVATING CHILDREN
Transitions Made Simple
Finding success in the stress-relaxation cycle
Converting "if...then" phrases to "when...then"
Using incentives creatively and safely
Avoiding the unconscious put-down
How a missing sense of importance influences behavior
How to help a child build a sense of importance
"Gimme's" and "Can I's" recycled
(Weaning children from baby-style requests)
A Key to Character Growth
Teaching responsible communication
Cutting transition stress
Making your words work... the FIRST time!
(What Children Learn Best)
(Routine – Ritual – Repetition)
for focus, sequence, order
("safe" positive reinforcement)
(5-step bedtime procedure)
(getting read on time)
(2-part series on positive leadership)
(4-part series on punishment)
The Cost of "Fun"
(part one)
To Do the Same Thing Again (part two)
A Foundation of Fear
(part three)
How to Treat Other People
(part four)
ADULT PERSONAL MANAGEMENT
Finding value in the 'repeat performance'
SO, WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH 'NO'?
And some creative alternatives
(6-part series)
Assertiveness In Action (part one)
Managing (vs. controlling) Children (part two)
ENGAGMENT: Participating vs. 'Spectating' (part three)
INDIRECT GUIDANCE: From obvious directives to subtle prompting (part four)
POSITIVE GUIDANCE: What it Means in REAL Life (part five)
WHATEVER HAPPENED TO COMPLIMENTS? Affirming vs. complimenting in everyday life (part six)
Handling your child-induced frustration
Opposition or Opportunity?
(2-part series on The Leading Question)
(part 1)
(part 2)
...and other empty add-ons
"Believe it or not!"
("But I AM...!")
Baby talk revisited
(communicating with connection)
(using words to build up)
(responding with positives)
(managing with action)
(the new 10 "be" attitudes)
(discretionary discussion)
(2-part series on argument reduction)
The
Incredible Power of Quiet
(part one)
(part two)
(part three)
(part four)
(part five)
(5-part series on restoring respect)
